>> this is the opportunity to empower other people to mentor us. this is where you say we are all mentors. you don't need to go to a special school or class. we have wisdom and things to share. it's free. you say to a friend, i'm not looking for solutions or i'm not looking for sympathy. now i'm looking for solutions. do you feel like offering solutions and your friend will say, i don't know i can only do the sympathy. you thank her and have the tea and find the friend with solutions. >> what if you don't have one or more to the point do you worry that someone who is reading this book is really in some kind of a severe even clinical depression and needs professional help and thinks i will find my friends with the solutions or i will read the book and read it again, i will do this on my own and not get help they need. >> sure, i was certainly one of those people and i had to get professional help and for quite a few years. but i stumbled and floundered and made all the mistakes and tried to do it all myself and guess what, we find out if it works be